I think you did a good job. Your reply was short and to the point with no malice. Because it is dealing with your wedding I wouldn't try to turn it into a debate over things you don't believe. When the person my niece (JWs) was to marry called to invite me to wedding but not the reception because I was "no longer in the truth" I told him I would be more that willing to discuss with him why I left but didn't feel it would be appropriate at that time.
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Letter from my mom. What do you think of my response?
by reneeisorym ini invited my mom two months ago to my wedding.
she never responded and then today i get this.
what do you think of my reply?
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"How Could I Have Believed the Garbage for so Long?"
by scout575 in"i went through the same thing when i started my deconversion process.
when i began to think rationally about life i was in shock.
i would ask myself, "how could i have believed the garbage for so long?
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I've thought about this many times. I had doubts but buried them because I knew that to express them would bring the whole house of cards down. We were constantly told "where are we to go?" After you have heard that hundreds of times you believe that it is true. The Watchtower likes to take about those who aren't prepared to pay the cost of becoming a witness. Well it works the other way also. A lot of people stay because they aren't prepared to pay the cost of leaving. Once I was able to accept that they would all turn their backs on me and that my sanity was worth more than their conditional friendships I was able to leave. That was over 20 years ago and I'm so glad I ran for the door.
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In Memorandum
by RichieRich init was the 14th of april last year that i had to sit my mother down and tell her i was an apostate.. i was closer to her than anyone else.
my father and mother are still married, but he let her raise me as a witness, and that meant it was me and mom.. me and mom in field service for 100 hours in july because she had to make her time as a regular pioneer.. me and mom fighting over what to bring for lunch to the district convention.. me and mom up late at night, when she would berate me, and then unload all her problems on to me.. me and mom and our 4 hour family studies, where we discuss 2 paragraphs of a random book, and then she would browbeat me until early in the morning.. somehow, through all that, i pretended to be a witness for years, just to appease her.
looking back, i don't know if i loved her, or if i was just afraid of her.
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Wow Richie, you never cease to impress me. Sorry it has to be that way with your mother but it is aways best to face the reality of a situation and you have done that. I am also glad as others have mentioned that you got out of that cult while you are young. Lots of time to do the right thing with your life. Most relationships in the tower are false based on how you play the game so who needs them? Anyway thanks honest heart felt post. I think it will help others in here who are going through similar situations.
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Did feel that you were at a mental breaking point at the point of leaving?
by jambon1 inprior to you leaving the org did you come to the conclusion that if you didnt actually take the step and leave, that you would run into serious mental difficulty.. i really feel that for 5 years proir to my finally leaving i was quite impaired mentally by the teachings and practices of the org.
it was coming to a head though when i finally announced that i was leaving.
i really felt that i was under intense mental pressure and that if i didnt get out then i may end up doing something serious.
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Yes I felt the same way. I just couldn't believe the teachings anymore. I was sick of going door to door. I was sick of going to all the meetings. I knew that if I stayed there and tried faking it I would go crazy. I couldn't believe the weight that was lifted once I told them I was out. Best thing I ever did for myself was get out of that crazy cult.
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The Truth will set you Free
by reneeisorym ina new driver that just started working here walked past my desk and said, "the truth will set you free.
" it gave me shivers down my back.
i know that phrase is in the bible and not just a phrase for jws but still -- they are the only ones i ever heard using it.. it just mades me uncomfortable hearing anything called "the truth"..
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They really did abuse that phrase when they applied it to their teachings. It wasn't the truth and it put you in chains. I also cringe when I hear catch phrases or words that remind me of the Watchtower
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The counterfeit money illustration
by I quit! indoes anyone remember this illustration being used at the hall as a means to keep the rank and file from look at any information that wasn't from the watchtower?
they would say that people are trained to spot counterfeit money by looking a the real thing.
in other words there was no need to look at anything else as you had the real thing, "the truth" coming from the watchtower.
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Does anyone remember this illustration being used at the hall as a means to keep the rank and file from look at any information that wasn't from the Watchtower? They would say that people are trained to spot counterfeit money by looking a the real thing. In other words there was no need to look at anything else as you had the real thing, "the truth" coming from the Watchtower. Anything that didn't agree with it was obviously false.
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What Are You Doing For the Rest of Your Life?
by restrangled inthis song has inspired me to no end.
it is on the latest commercial for journey diamonds....have you seen it?.
very romantic and moving.....after much research it is sung by dusty springfield.. i'm still trying to figure out where i am going.......what are your plans?.
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I really don't have a big plan and I don't think I really want one. I'm pretty much happy where I am.
So at this point I don't know what I'm suppose to do for the rest of my life
I'm not sure your supposed to do anything. What would you like to do? I think there are lot of things to do after leaving the WT. You can go back to school and learn a new field or just take some classes you are interested in. Read all the books you weren't allowed to read as a dub. Take a ski trip instead of pioneering. Go to church on Sunday instead of the kingdumb hall or just stay home and garden on Sunday. Join a gym. Join a womens club. Move to an area where the need isn't great but where you'd like to live.
For some people I think it takes a while for them to get used to not having an organization trying to micro manage every aspect of their life for them. Just try to relax and enjoy the ride.
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Like my new avatar? LOL
by ButtLight inyou may have to hit refresh!.
a long time ago, we were giving people pics for new avatars.
so here i go............... jh, this is for you lol.
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That explains it. New Light comes from a gas lamp.
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What Ever Possessed You To Become A Jehovah's Witness?
by minimus ini was "born into it".
that's my excuse.
what's yours?
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I will also have to go with the temporary insanity defense. I was young and trying to change my lifestlye. I was looking for friends who weren't getting wasted all the time and knock knock who do you think came by and love bombed me? No need to mention it but I will anyway. All the love bombs were defused and removed the minute I said I no longer believed it was the "truth". You've never seen such a hasty retreat. Well, you probably have.
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I suppose I should stop lurking,
by SacrificialLoon inand introduce myself.
i was raised in "the truth", and for the longest time it was all i knew.
i spent my childhood going through all the things that other witness children went through; not celebrating holidays, not standing up and reciting the pledge of allegiance, not going to school events, or associating with "worldly" children much.
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Welcome to the board Loon.
As for annointed JWs my opinion is that some Jehovah's Witnesses are so cheap they just claim to be annointed to get some free crackers and wine once a year.